You will have some marriage problems that require a third party to help you resolve because a marriage is not a perfect institution. Before you jump into the decision of getting a divorce, you should consider all other avenues of solving your marriage problems, and one of the most effective and efficient ways is a marriage retreat.
The therapist of the retreat should be able to separate light problems from severe ones and help you to address each issue on its own instead of piling the issues together and handling them as a block. The couple should be given more time, and the therapist should concentrate more on the marital problems that have broken the trust between the spouses. If unfaithfulness is among the problems that are destroying the trust in the mortgage it should be dealt with by the therapists as an emergency case because most couples can overcome other problems but this one.
Ensure that the therapists of the marriage retreat do not take sides during the therapy sessions. When the therapist takes sides the other spouse will feel blamed for everything wrong that is happening in the marriage. It will be more difficult to solve your marital problems after participating in a marriage retreat where the therapists were taking sides. An appropriate marriage retreat should enable you to see how positive your partner and marriage impacts your life for them to rebuild the bond they had.
A marriage retreat will generate better results when the boundaries of each spouse are respected. The therapy should not force any of you to take part in an activity or talk about issues that they are not ready for. Your marriage, you or partner may experience more problems when you are forced to come out of your comfort zone. The willingness of a marriage partner to engage in the therapy and retreat will help the other partner and the therapist to have an easier time so that they can all work on finding solutions to their marital problems.
The goals for your marriage are different from the objectives of another couple. The therapist should set boundaries by appreciating and valuing the views and values you have in your marriage instead of imposing on you theirs. The therapists is only there to help but you’ll be the one who will be living with your spouse after the retreat hence avoid going to marriage retreats that will make you lose the focus you have in the marriage. The objectives of the therapist for your marriage will not work for you.
The therapist should follow up on the progress of your marriage after the retreat. There are challenges that may arise after the retreat which the therapist can help to resolve because the healing process after marriage has been shaken can take longer.